We grow up, we figure it out, we stop doing that stuff.
It is unlikely, being as self-aware as you are now, that you will repeat those same mistakes.
A few years ago a I saw a very beautifully made and very personal student film about a lonely and shy young man who has insomnia so he walks around downtown late at night, visiting a diner where he has a crush on the waitress, and otherwise encountering women who all don’t notice him or outright reject him.
She wasn’t the nicest person and took advantage of me, but I hurt her feelings and I made sure when I came to my senses that I apologized, regardless of what she’d done, I messed up.Use woman-created media to to remind yourself that the world isn’t only about you men women who have/have not rejected you as a romantic partner. Reason #4: If you ask the women you know for recommendations of books and movies they love, they will flock to this project. Have you looked into clubs, classes, volunteering, Meet Ups?If you meet a woman, and you kind of like her, and you are looking for something to talk about, try asking her “ If you listen to her, and then go and read or watch that thing, she may or may not date you in the end, but you will get infinity coolness points because this behavior by men is sadly all too rare. This is as close as I ever get to the #1 SEEKRIT TRICK TO IMPRESS GIRLS kind of advice-giving. Some cool places to meet lots of nice people are: From how you describe yourself: Intense, intelligent, good at arguing, passionate about certain things that no one else likes, I am going to make an inference that you are very smart, quick-witted, and you like to be good at stuff and impress people.2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.3) When you have the time and energy for it, try out online dating sites to practice dating. 4) Be really nice to yourself and take good care of yourself.But I think it’s a good idea to make a deliberate year-long project of it at this time in your life, when you are trying to figure out how to relate to women better. You’re going to read/watch/listen to something, why not make an effort to seek out women’s voices and perspectives?Reason #3: It will give you many different perspectives on women as diverse human beings and allow you to hang out with women and get to know them in your imagination.This means that you are recognizing what you like in a person, and learning more about who you are really attracted to.This will serve you well when you meet someone who is single and who has the qualities you like.Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.And hopefully you already seek out and enjoy works by women — I don’t want to insult you by saying that you don’t or that you are unaware! Reason #2: It will be fun and you’ll encounter some really good stuff you might not have sought out otherwise.