Indeed, extramarital affairs begin to be described in more neutral terms.Instead of the highly negative terms of "adultery" and "betrayal," some people begin to use the more neutral term of "parallel relationship."The deeper problem, however, does not concern normative values, but rather emotional ones.There's just one thing I could say...don't give up on your best friend.you really do love her,stay in her life.don't push her away.is too short to worry about so many things.enjoy it..people are the ones making their life complicated,but the truth is,life is just black or white.you want her to stay in your life,then let her.you don't want her to stay,then let her go.simple as that..I suggest that you fight for what you want..listen to your intuition.don't let your husband feel that he's being left all about balance.can work will.it all depends on how you handle having two lovers at the same time...I believe we are conditioned from birth to be in love with only one person in the same way we're conditioned to have certain religious beliefs. The consoling factor here IMO is that is slowly evolving and although I probably wont see it in my lifetime (though I see signs of it now), I believe humanity will evolve into that, and that is a good thing Ok well I have the same problem .I love my husband so much , but over a year ago I started seeing my business partner ( now ) who is my lover .I love them so much and now can't stand being without either of them .During that brief period, I had sex with both of them—one upstairs and one downstairs."Although both Esther and Iris have loved two people at the same time, each really craved the old-fashioned romantic love.
I am not out to change anyone or wavy him to leave his wife , I was and am happy to have him , but he asked something of me that would destroy me .Despite such testimonies, it is not obvious how to explain this phenomenon as emotions are typically partial and exclusive.This is especially so in romantic love which requires a lot of energy and resources.Since that time we have both grown and evolved as people and feel like we popped back into each others life at a great time. She gets me completely - on a level I've never experienced before with anyone. I had lunch with a friend of mine who told me its going to ruin my marriage (a guy friend who has had a thing for me and I think he might have a biased opinion).He said I have to call it off with her and not speak to her anymore. I know something has to change to make my husband happy and I'm willing to make sacrifices! She's told me before she loves me and if the sex had to stop, she would understand because she agrees - its not about the sex. I don't want to hear from the people who think its never going to work.I want to hear from the people who see a light at the end of this tunnel and I want to know how you see this working out.Thank you for taking the time to help a girl that has no one to talk to and no where to turn.Lust (in Paradise or not) clearly doesn't differentiate much in terms of emotional connection. We love our children equally, without having to portion our love out in calculated sums.Many men (and women) are not only capable of imagining their beloved in the arms of another, but are turned on by the thought."Torn between two lovers feeling like a fool, loving both of you is breaking all the rules" (Mary Mac Gregor).Empirical evidence clearly suggests that humans are capable of loving and having sex with more than one person at the same time.