TOO MUCH FILTERING The Internet offers a seemingly endless supply of people who are single and looking to date, as well as tools to filter and find exactly what you’re looking for.You can specify height, education, location and basically anything else.” Ok Cupid believes that answers to these questions may have some predictive value, presumably because they touch on deep, personal issues that matter to people more than they realize.But what works well for predicting good first dates doesn’t tell us much about the long-term success of a couple. Where to write a negative review calling out the restaurant that gave you food poisoning and ruined your vacation. Where to get treatment for the food poisoning you got at that restaurant where you ate on vacation.Many singles compare it to a second job, more duty than flirtation; the word “exhausting” came up constantly. Is there a way to do it more effectively, with less stress?The evidence from our two years of study, which included interviews around the world, from Tokyo to Wichita, Kan., says yes.
Online dating is simply a method of meeting people, and it has advantages and disadvantages.” “Have you ever traveled around another country alone?” and “Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?Are you trying to find a guy whose favorite book is “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” and whose favorite sport is lacrosse?You’re just a few clicks away from this dream dude. Scientists working with found that the kind of partner people said they wanted often didn’t match up with what they were actually interested in.People filter too much; they’d be better off vetting dates in person.“Online dating is just a vehicle to meet more people,” says the author and dating consultant Laurie Davis.“It’s not the place to actually date.” The anthropologist Helen Fisher, who does work for Match.com, makes a similar argument: “It’s a misnomer that they call these things ‘dating services,’ ” she told us.The variety of dating sites is constantly growing, with many sites focused on very specific groups or interests.There are sites for seniors, sites for Muslims, sites for fitness-oriented people, sites for people just looking for friends and sites for people who are interested in more adult activities.PICTURE PERFECT People put a huge amount of time into writing the perfect profile, but does all that effort pay off? It offered the minimal information people needed to have an in-person meeting.No lengthy profile, no back-and-forth chat, just a blurred photo.