Sometimes, though, kids (and especially teenagers) may have an easier time accepting rules when they seem to come from their natural parent.Teenagers need to know that their actions have consequences, so breaking the rules should result in some loss of privileges.Unfortunately, not all children have been taught appropriate self control, and reining in a teenager who has been allowed to misbehave without worry about the consequences can be a daunting task.
He lost cell privileges all the time for things like not eating all his vegetables, or leaving the bedroom light on. I loved his boys and really thought I did my best to make them happy and comfortable- cooking what they liked, cleaning their rooms, going to their games. It seems you are in a really tricky position - but it sounds like you have done the right thing and it has given him time to think and reflect.I have a problem with my ex's step-daughter (which is what has brought me to this page)..But let him have the time with his boys, don't be jealous (it can't be a me or them situation - if it is you will always be unhappy and resentful).Although teens are nearly adults, they are not quite there and still need guidance from their parents and stepparents.Teenagers may be inclined to deny their stepparents’ authority, but it is only reasonable that the kids in the house (and that includes teens) be expected to offer their stepparents a reasonable amount of respect and compliance.House rules should be discussed and agreed upon by both parents in the household so that the kids don’t get into the habit of playing one parent against the other.Ideally, natural parents should take the lead role in enforcing the rules, but stepparents need to be obeyed, too.His mother left them when he was approx 8 yrs old; and he has cried like a baby every time she has to leave after a visit. She took her 2 older sons with her, from a different father.My son then dated and married a narcissist 4 years ago, who clearly has never been able to treat his son (my grandson) with love or respect.My workoholic son took his son anyway, but only around once a month. It is incredibly helpful to hear from a male/father who has experience with spouses/children/step-children.I don’t think they even go anymore The hatred grew between the evil step mother & my precious grandson, until finally 1–1/2 yrs ago after returning home after the summer with his mother in a different state; she started verbally bullying as usual, and for the 1st time ever he broke loose and screamed all the hateful things he had ever wanted to say for the past 5 years. He is going to a therapist today and seems committed to addressing these issues and also says he is going to insist his boys go as well after he has had a few sessions.