I've slowly been moving towards using the word kinky or kink. It just, sometimes for some people the word fetish invokes like, "Oh, this person must be sick because they have a fetish.So to me, they're more like kinks, things that turn you on. It's just that I'm as familiar with the language as you in that a fetish isn't the best name for this kind of stuff.[Angel Donovan]: John, thank you so much for joining the show. [Angel Donovan]: Great so, let's just jump straight in here.If you could give a quick overview of what Fet Life is from your perspective.If you think about it, a lot of research is biased.Even when we have academics on here, often they're using surveys.So, there are..still includes people who are into ABDL which Adult Baby Diaper Lovers.Oh, I hope I got that one right and I never ever, ever asked anybody if that's what it truly meant but, I'm almost 100% sure that's what it means.
So it really looks at the reality of what people's sexual desires are about men and women. It's quite detailed, and tough to get through, so maybe you'll just want to stick to this episode instead. So it has a home for pretty much any sexual desire on this site. It's not like OKcupid, or Match.com, or anything like that.Since "Fifty Shades of Grey" came out, there's a lot more women who are exploring this side of their lives and are interested in it.So, potentially your girlfriend, or the next girl that you're going to be with, has this part of her mind and she's interested in this, interested in kink. If you reject that, if you kind of stick to the norms and you don't feel comfortable with those kinds of desires, or maybe you feel a bit judgmental about them and you may project that judgment on her when she brings them up (or when it comes up at some time), that doesn't help the relationship.[Angel Donovan]: Great, great so, in terms of fetish or the fetish community..have spoken about this kind of stuff before but, to give it some broad strokes, what are you talking about there?[John Baku]: I try not to use the word fetish anymore.It is probably going to surprise some of you, and for some of you it's going to be really damn shocking.So, not all of you today are going to be taking some immediate "take homes".[John Baku]: I mean, the really easiest way to explain it to somebody is Facebook for the kinky community.So, a lot of the features you'll find on Facebook or what Facebook does as social network, it's really just like a niche social network.It doesn't build trust, and it definitely doesn't help to help you to explore your sexuality, and for her to feel comfortable in her sexuality.So, this is a great episode and I'd also like to recommend a book to accompany this episode. It's just a book that I think goes well with today's topic that I've read recently.