He seemed interested, but now he’s looking the other way. Sometimes even the men who can are still shy about approaching you. We all feel a little nervous approaching someone we’re interested in. They both want to be petted, but let’s face it, puppies are cuter. I know, it’s hard to tell sometimes whether a guy’s acting awkward or he’s just that kind of strange.
Some guys just can’t handle a strong, independent woman.
It all started with my father who, trying his hardest to console a weepy teenager who didn’t have a date to prom, told me that it wasn’t my fault that men didn’t want to date me. He totally meant it as a compliment — he’d raised a strong, outspoken young woman, and he knew it — so I tried to take it as such.
But as I got older, and the men I’d date started calling me intimidating as a way to weasel out of the situation we were in, I realized that the opposite sex didn’t always see intimidation as a positive thing.
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) I got a whole slew of responses, but versions of the same question kept popping up over and over again: I myself have been called intimidating a lot throughout my life.
I’m independent — I live alone, I support myself, and I don’t need anyone to help me change a lightbulb.
Basically, it seemed to me that if a woman is better than a man she’s dating in any aspect of her life, she’s automatically cast as “too intimidating.”I was immediately pissed, because a lot of the characteristics that men evidently considered intimidating were fundamental parts of me.As much as he might want to approach you, he’s put off by your confidence. His ego’s been hurt somehow and now he has to go lick his wounds. No matter what you say to the guy, he takes it as an insult. He’s intimidated and thinks you’re constantly judging him. If his ego’s that fragile, do you even want to deal with him to begin with? Snide comments about whatever you happen to say is a sure sign he’s feeling intimidated.It’s in the way you hold yourself and interact with those around you. At this point, he’s just trying to downgrade how awesome you are. It’s petty and stupid, but some guys think this makes them look better. Do you suddenly feel like the exchange has turned into an escalating tennis match? Remember, the right ones stick around to learn who you really are.He thinks it’ll make him seem like your equal or better. They get distracted trying to figure out how to respond or how to make themselves seem good enough in your eyes. A better man takes the approach of simply not talking about himself much. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and hopes to have her first novel out soon.He’s intimidated and doesn’t want to look bad to you. I’ve always been incredibly driven in my career, and I consider myself moderately successful.I tend to let things roll off my back, but I’m not afraid to speak up if something pisses me off.I’d ask my date a lot of questions about his life, so that I wasn’t talking about my job or my studio apartment all that much.If I disagreed with him on anything, I’d avoid even a friendly debate, and smile tightly and change the subject.So, being a woman who used to mold and fold herself to meet society’s standards of “the girl he wants to date,” I started Googling to see exactly what men found intimidating in a woman, all in an effort to fix it in myself.The answers I found were actually super enraging — especially on one particular Reddit post I’d stumbled across.